Travel and the art of losing friends

Travel and the art of losing friends -

After months on the road, you find yourself find back home and take enthusiastic old friendships. Are you planning dinner, meetings and nights. And, as some people respond to or do not have, you begin to recognize a terrible truth -., While you were on the road to explore the world, your friends through the back door of your life crawled out of

And, unlike to you, they do not come back.

They ghosted.

after more than six months away, I came back to New York eager to connect with my friends. I missed their faces, stories and present. But like most New Yorkers will tell you, friendships are often difficult to maintain under the crushing pace of life, even if you are in the same city. Everyone moved a million miles a minute, there is always to go to an event, and make for any other time, is a constant battle of very conflicting schedules.

"What are you doing two weeks from now?" Is a common question in the city that never sleeps.

I expected but, after many weeks of missed connections and noticed absence of events, I realized that, while I was away, I had to ghosted on. Many had taken my absence as an excuse to finally leave stage left.

At first I was sad. People I care for my life left seemingly for no reason. "What did I do wrong? How can I get change back?" I asked myself.

Then I was crazy. "Screw those idiots! They were not fun anyway," I said in an attempt to hide the pain.

But I calmed down and thought about it more, I realized that I was looking the wrong way in this situation. Walking lost me not away friends; It showed me who my true friends.

Most people maintain a broad social network, and if you are in contact with this network, it is easy to think relationships are deeper than they are. Tourism showed me what compounds were in fact deep and which were only deep in my head.

It is true that friends to move in and out of your life, regardless of whether you are traveling or not. It's life - to change the people apart and grow. I have many friends that I no longer speak. We moved to different cities, changed our interests, and the ties that bound us weaker over time.

But that is a gradual decoupling and a less emotionally blunt. We know and understand why it happened.

But make to throw a party, a great time, go grab a drink, and turns to see all suddenly disappeared.

There is a sudden, shocking and very depressing.

Part of me "Well thinks that's just New York. This city is hard easy." But then I remember the stories from other travelers who have experienced the same thing and realize that there not only me, it's not just this city.

travel the process of separation and Exposes accelerates the quality of your friendships. His frayed away the weak bonds to keep trying, while, strengthening, which will withstand the distance of space and time.

My lifestyle make it easier to maintain any friends, but it also makes it not impossible. I've been around the world but I see friends every few years, but we make the effort to stay in touch. When we are together, our bond is still strong. I know that my friends ask if I return or transit and so often let me she'm really into text. However, after finding that I am really back, and I want to hang out, you start to wonder how strong the bond is, if you do all the work. If you stick to your texts unanswered and plans constantly canceled, you see the writing on the wall.

Perhaps a friend they want, which is not a nomad. Maybe we grew apart and I just did not know

But as I said last week, I again need balance in my life to find, - .. And that includes with the upcoming

Maybe These are the people who have left 1 day are wondering how I am and what I do. Perhaps some of them will be sad that they do not know.

But what I know is that, while they were ghosting, those who remained, and I became closer.

And for that, I am truly grateful.

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